Summary of When Work & Family Collide | Benny Ho

00:00:00 - 00:40:00

In this video, Benny Ho stresses the importance of prioritizing family over work, striking a balance between the two and making Jesus central in every aspect of our lives. He explains that work and family were given to us by God, and there was no conflict between the two, but sin has caused a collision between the two. He discusses the need to understand and address this issue, and emphasizes that seeking the kingdom of God, having the right priorities, and putting Christ in the center are essential in achieving success. Ho encourages fathers and men to love their families deeply and do their work excellently while becoming disciple makers at home.

• 00:00:00 In this section, Benny Ho announces the launch of their new online campus and invites people to sign up and become digital missionaries. He explains that the service will no longer be live streamed at 10 am but will instead be screened at 5 PM every Sunday until about 6:15 PM for the online campus. He encourages everyone to invite their unchurched friends and loved ones to check out the church through the online campus. Benny also shares a message for Father's Day entitled "When Work and Family Collide," emphasizing the importance of putting Jesus central in our lives, which is relevant not only for fathers but for everyone.
• 00:05:00 In this section, the speaker discusses how work and family shape our identity and ultimately come from God. He mentions that while work and family can lead to a higher standard of living and disposable income, they can also cause a collision between the two. This leads to a lower standard of morality, spirituality, and relationship. He notes that both work and family were given to us by God on the day of creation, and in God's original plan, there was no conflict between the two. However, sin has caused a collision between work and family, making it crucial for us to understand and address this issue.
• 00:10:00 In this section, Benny Ho discusses how the fall of man due to sin not only led to moving away from God but also to moving away from each other, creating tension in two key areas of life - work and family. With inherent selfishness and competition, creating a healthy family environment and curating a successful work life has become more challenging. However, when Jesus came to redeem, he not only reconciled man back to God but also restored the dignity of work and family. By exalting us to love our family deeply and do our work excellently, Paul restores both the fallen family and our work.
• 00:15:00 In this section, Benny Ho emphasizes the importance of prioritizing family over work. He explains that while family is all about relationships, work is a task that needs to be done excellently. However, many people tend to reverse the order and pour their passion and time into their work while neglecting their families. He suggests that we cheat a bit on work and intentionally build up our families before it's too late. Ultimately, our loyalty in the marketplace can be fleeting and what matters most in the end is our family. Both working and stay-at-home parents can face this dilemma of shifting their focus to tasks instead of nurturing relationships. It is crucial to live out our priorities and focus on deepening our relationships with our loved ones while also doing our work with excellence as unto the Lord.
• 00:20:00 In this section, Benny Ho discusses how work and family can collide and how it's important to strike a balance between the two. He mentions that it's common to become preoccupied with work and forget to show love and care for family and others around us. While it's essential to do work with excellence and commitment, having a sense of biblical balance is crucial. Benny reflects on his own experience and how a mentor guided him to understand his misplaced loyalty towards his ministry instead of family. He emphasizes that family is precious cargo that must be carried across the finishing line, and crossing it without them would be a failure. Benny concludes by reiterating Jesus' words about seeking God's kingdom and righteousness first, pursuing higher endeavors in life and reaping benefits for oneself and others along the way.
• 00:25:00 In this section of the video, Benny Ho discusses the importance of seeking and continuing to seek the kingdom of God, which becomes a driving factor in one's life. Seeking the kingdom of God is not just an occasional option, but rather a lifestyle that happens habitually and consistently. Seeking the kingdom of God first and foremost means embracing the right purpose, which is to love one's family deeply and do their work excellently, not the other way around. Creating a balance between work and family is crucial, and having the right perspective is essential in doing so. Benny Ho emphasizes the importance of not reversing the order of loving one's family deeply and doing work excellently. Ultimately, discipleship begins at home with parents as chief disciple makers.
• 00:30:00 In this section, Benny Ho discusses the importance of having the right priorities in place to achieve success. He states that success comes from knowing one's purpose in life, which is to live for God and His kingdom and grow to our fullest potential to be the best worker, employee, or employer in town. Ho emphasizes the need to sow seeds to benefit others, beginning with one's own family, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. He then suggests a practical exercise for developing the right priorities, which is to divide life into eight sectors: physical, spiritual, family, social, mental, community, financial, and professional, and to rate oneself on a scale of 0 to 10 for each area. However, Ho believes that the key to this exercise is to put Christ in the center to dictate all other areas of life. He concludes by stating that prioritizing is not straightforward since life has seasons.
• 00:35:00 In this section, Benny Ho discusses the importance of making Jesus central in our lives, rather than compartmentalizing him. He explains that as seasons of life change, our priorities may shift, but by putting Jesus in the center, he will guide and direct us on how to lead our families, conduct our work, and handle our finances. By loving our families deeply and doing our work excellently, while always seeking God's guidance, there need not be a collision between the two. He encourages all fathers, grandfathers, and men in the congregation to come forward to pray and seek God's help in living their lives according to his principles.
• 00:40:00 In this section of the transcript, Benny Ho emphasizes the importance of prioritizing family over work and making Jesus central in every aspect of our lives. He urges fathers and husbands to love their families deeply while doing their work excellently, and to seek guidance from God in deciding which areas of their lives need to change in order to better align with these priorities. He leads a prayer asking Jesus to direct and dictate every aspect of their lives, and to help them become disciple makers at home.