Summary of EL ORIGEN DE LOS TEMPERAMENTOS

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This video discusses the origins of temperaments and how they develop over time. It argues that we can achieve a more balanced, more fulfilling life by accepting the positive aspects of our individual temperaments.

• 00:00:00 This video discusses the origins of temperaments. It explains that there are eight basic temperaments and that each person can have one or more of these temperaments. The video also discusses how temperaments are related to states of mind and how they develop over time. Finally, it discusses different parenting styles and how they can create different temperaments in children.
• 00:05:00 In childhood, children rely on their parents to survive. As a result, they develop strategies to interact with adults in a way that results in success. These strategies often stay with the children throughout their lives, regardless of age. Different temperaments develop as a result of different interactions with adults during childhood. For example, some children learn to rely on the approval of others to feel safe and secure. As adults, these individuals tend to continue to rely on the approval of others to feel good about themselves. Other temperaments develop in a different way. These individuals learn to handle stress by relying on their own resources. They develop a sense of self-reliance as they grow older and are able to support themselves financially. Everyone experiences some degree of dependence during childhood. This dependence is especially evident in the way children relate to their parents. As adults, some people continue to rely on the approval of others to feel good about themselves. Other people develop strategies to cope with stress in their own way. Understanding one's own temperament is important for living a fulfilling life. We all develop temperaments as children, and these temperaments continue to play a role in our lives as adults.
• 00:10:00 This video discusses the seven emotional needs of children and how parents can provide the necessary attention and acceptance. The child's need for attention and acceptance is a basic need which may last throughout their life, and there are some people who have a pathological need to call attention to themselves. Poorly-cared-for children can develop a trauma that lasts into adulthood. Next, the video discusses the need for acceptance. Children always seek to be accepted by their parents, and may also need to be recognized. There is also a need for respect, which is often lacking in children. The seven emotional needs of children are: joy, security, affirmation, recognition, love, care, and connection. However, all individuals have a defect side to their personality, as is the case with the child with the natural personality. The child is cheerful and sociable, but has a few flaws. For example, he or she is overly-cautious and may overreact to rules. The child with the rebellious personality is oppositional towards parental rules and is resistant to authority. He or she may also have a personality disorder, such as psychopathy or narcissism. The child with a rebellious attitude towards parental authority often has difficulties resolving conflicts and solving problems on their own. They are
• 00:15:00 In this video, venden explains that there is a correlation between childhood rebellion and creative genius. He goes on to say that the fourth child, the "adapted child," understands or seeks to eliminate conflicts in order to achieve approval. Finally, venden discusses four different temperaments that children develop as a result of these interactions with adults: the "natural happy child," the "rebellious child," the "smart child," and the "adapted child." He says that the adult is the one who sees things from a more rational perspective, but tends to be cold. He also mentions that on days when the coldness and lack of emotional consideration collide, we have eight people: three parents, four children, and the adult. He explains that the child's temperament is a product of his interactions with adults and that it develops in three ways: through the child's attempt to manipulate others through his or her own powerlessness, through the development of a strategy of happiness and laughter, and through the acquisition of knowledge about how to take advantage of other people. Finally, venden talks about how the adult often sees things in a different light, and how this can lead to a child developing a temperamental disposition of being assertive and aggressive.
• 00:20:00 This video discusses four different temperaments: the melancholic, the happy, the anxious, and the aggressive. Each temperament is the result of different parenting styles. The melancholic is born to parents who are highly demanding and perfectionistic, and they never give praise. The happy child is raised by parents who are also demanding, but they also praise the child. The anxious child is raised by parents who are very demanding, but they also have moments of praise. The aggressive child is raised by parents who are very demanding, but they also have moments of praise. The fourth temperament, the flemático, is the result of parents who are always demanding and never give praise. Flemátic children are hypersensitive because they have experienced a lot of pain in their relationship and in being criticized. They tend to be withdrawn, avoid socializing, and have a low self-esteem. Everyone copes with their parents in their own way, and the flemátic child always feels like they're making decisions on their own and never feels secure. They are always carrying around a lot of pain and a lot of insecurity because they never feel like things are good. They have an internal father who dismisses them and they resent everyone.
• 00:25:00 The player of a team is an excellent collaborator, but seeks to minimize conflict. That child who learned to adapt if things went quiet, stayed still, and was content to be quiet, because he knew that if he didn't comply, they might sound like the child from Flemish. Ok, the blood vessels and the coléric ones, the melancholic, and the flemátic ones, all chose ways of reacting and relating to adults, and followed those strategies because they made sense to them. As they grew up and had adults around, they continued to use these strategies, which, in the end, are dysfunctional because they are based on relationships between adults, rather than between father and son or between peers. Understanding this reality is important in understanding how temperaments influence human beings, all of whom have at least one of those four temperaments. We all have them to some degree, and develop the important ability to expand our reaction beyond those infantile strategies when we are adults. We can choose to be the father who is nurturing, potential there for us to treat ourselves with mercy, that is, to learn to be merciful with ourselves and to forgive ourselves and our fathers, and to understand that because of our limitations he may not have been able
• 00:30:00 This video discusses the origins of temperaments, and how to better understand and manage them. It argues that dysfunctional strategies no longer work, and that we can achieve a more balanced, more fulfilling life by accepting the positive aspects of our individual temperaments.