Summary of Codependency, Addiction and Insecure Attachment: What is the Connection?

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Codependency, addiction, and insecure attachment are all linked. People with codependency often need to be in control, and they're often unable to make decisions or communicate their needs. Simple decision making practices can help.

• 00:00:00 This presentation discusses codependency and insecure attachment, and provides a definition, examples, and consequences of each. It challenges the common assumption that codependency is a result of adverse childhood experiences, and points out that codependency can also be a symptom of insecure attachment stemming from childhood trauma. The presentation provides strategies for recovering from codependency.
• 00:05:00 Codependency is a type of relationship in which one partner primarily defines their worth or goodness based on someone else. This can often be seen in relationships where the person needs to be rescued or taken care of. It is also common in addiction, where the person may develop tolerance to the substance or activity in order to get the same feeling.
• 00:10:00 Codependency is a disorder characterized by an excessive need to attach to or be attached to someone else, often in a way that harms the individual. insecure attachment is a type of anxiety that leads to a fear of abandonment, which in turn can cause codependents to excessively rely on their partners. This can be a difficult dynamic to maintain, as when the codependent stops trying to control their partner, they feel out of control themselves.
• 00:15:00 Codependency is a personality disorder characterized by an excessive need to be close to someone else, often to the point of being controlling and destructive. This can lead to problems in other areas of a person's life, including their physical health, mental health, and relationships.
• 00:20:00 Codependents often have low self-esteem and insecurity due to their upbringing, which can manifest in codependent behaviors such as relying on others for validation or care. Responsiveness—being there for the child when they need it and making sure their needs are met—is also important.
• 00:25:00 The video discusses the concepts of codependency, addiction, and insecure attachment, and the connection between them. It explains that in a codependent relationship, the individual values other people's approval more than their own self-esteem, which can lead to problems in areas such as self-confidence, self-esteem, and ability to trust others.
• 00:30:00 In this video, Dr. Laura Schlessinger discusses codependency and its connection to insecure attachment. She points out that people who have experienced abandonment anxiety often have four typical reactions: fight, flee, fawn, or freeze. Codependent individuals often resort to controlling or appease measures in order to keep their partners close. This can lead to addictions and other harmful behaviors.
• 00:35:00 Codependency is a problem that can be caused by an insecure attachment to a caregiver or other significant person in a person's life. This can lead to difficulties in communication, self-awareness, and assertiveness. Stinking thinking, or negative thoughts about oneself and one's environment, is often a result of these difficulties.
• 00:40:00 Codependency is a personality disorder characterized by an inability to identify or appropriately manage one's own feelings and needs. People with codependency often have difficulty connecting with others and experience a variety of mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, and anger. People with codependency often have difficulty regulating their emotions, which contributes to emotional dysregulation. This in turn promotes hyper vigilance and intense reactions to stress and threat. However, with the help of therapy and a change in perspective, codependent individuals can learn to better manage their emotions and connect with others.
• 00:45:00 Codependency, addiction, and insecure attachment are all linked. People with codependency often need to be in control, and they're often unable to make decisions or communicate their needs. Simple decision making practices can help.
• 00:50:00 Codependency is a problem caused by a lack of secure attachment in childhood, which can lead to difficulties in adult relationships. People with codependency often rely on others to meet their needs, and may use guilt, shame, and control to get their way. Recognizing that you are powerless over another person can be terrifying, but it is an important step in overcoming codependency.
• 00:55:00 Codependency is a problem in which people rely too much on others for emotional and physical comfort. People with codependency issues often get into relationships with people who need to be rescued, and because they don't feel worthy or lovable on their own, they need somebody to validate them. The most effective way to help someone recover from codependency is to develop a sense of self-worth, identify the function of the behaviors, address the depression, guilt, resentment, and anxiety, and learn about and create a network of healthy relationships.