Summary of One of My Biggest Regrets

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The author of this video reflects on her biggest regret in life: being sexually active. She explains how this has been a difficult experience for her, as it has been difficult to read about her experiences and have honest discussions about them. She feels that she has lied to herself for decades, as she has tried to shield herself from the pain and guilt she has felt about her sexuality.

• 00:00:00 This woman regrets being a sexual activist and regretting the sexual experiences she has had. She has found that being a sexual activist has been difficult, as it has been difficult to read about her experiences and have honest discussions about them. She feels that she has lied to herself for decades, as she has tried to shield herself from the pain and guilt she has felt about her sexuality.
• 00:05:00 The speaker regrets working and a year later experiencing her first sexual trauma, feeling damaged and dirty and blaming herself. She felt overwhelmed with shame and became hypersexual and promiscuous, using the culture as a crutch to build an identity of being a powerful woman. She tells herself that because she can seduce men, she is powerful, but over time realizes that being desired is not the same as being held in high esteem. She tells herself that to be the other woman taken for granted or treated like a doormatunder the false pretense of being empowered came to head one night. A text message from an on-again, off-again lover told her goodnight, followed by the wrong person. This led her to Rock Bottom, where she realized that losing everything or ending up in jail doesn't always look like losing everything. She wanted to be able to have meaningless sex like a guy, but it didn't work after years of trying. She tells her audience that she's learned it doesn't work for a lot of men, either. She's speaking from her own experience, not that of all women. She's hopeful that her words will reach out to a particular audience, the young women who are currently fed the dangerous lie that level of sex
• 00:10:00 The author reflects on the idea that one of the biggest regrets of her life is that she regrets being sexually active. She feels that this is a common feeling among women and that it is important to share it in order to help other women recognize that they are not alone. She urges women to be vocal about their sexuality and to feel empowered by it.
• 00:15:00 The author reflects on the regrets he has about his sexual past. He credits his sobriety and understanding of his relationships today to therapy and self-awareness. He encourages other men to be honest about their desires and not to be afraid to seek professional help.
• 00:20:00 Luis shares the story of how her biggest regret is not living according to her intuition and pursuing relationships based on love, rather than sex. She encourages readers to forgive themselves and seek professional help if they feel similar struggles.